Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Human nature? Fear? Or something else?

This dilemma has come up several times lately with people I know, and it continues to puzzle me. In the movie "Some Kind of Wonderful" (great movie, btw), Lea Thompson's character, Amanda Jones, speaks one little line that seems to be what so many people live by.

"I'd rather be with someone for the wrong reasons than alone for the right."

Why?? Why do so many people choose to be with someone who they know isn't right for them instead of being on their own? Why do so many teenage girls feel like they HAVE to have a boyfriend? Hell, why do so many single women of all ages feel the same way?

Do they feel like a third wheel otherwise? Do they feel like they're some kind of social reject if they're alone? Do they feel they're incomplete as a person? Or is it something deeper?

I know that there's that line of thinking that "the one" is out there somewhere. If you believe that, and you believe in fate, then don't you also believe that they will come into your life regardless? And if you're a "serial monogamist" tied to some loser, then what about when "the one" does stroll in?

There's also the line of thinking that "we need to stay together for the children". In my younger days, I tried that. IT.DOESN'T.WORK. If you're with someone because of your kids, but neither of you is happy, what environment does that create for those children? Instead of home being a peaceful sanctuary, it's tense, sad, or even hostile. Why do that to your children?

And then there's the "but he/she says he/she's sorry and will change for me". Uh, no. I'm not saying that people can't truly be sorry for their actions and change their behavior. But really, ask yourself, "Is he/she sorry for what he/she did or sorry that he/she got caught?" And they can't change FOR YOU. They have to do it FOR THEMSELVES. The only way they can truly and successfully change is if they sincerely want to be different.

There are a million other excuses. I've heard 'em all, and I still don't understand.

Before you think, "Yeah, you're happily married, what do you know?", trust me, I KNOW. I've been in an unhappy marriage. I've been divorced. I've been a single mom. I've been in the dating scene. And I've been ALONE. I wasn't out hunting for a relationship when The Hub walked into my life. As a matter of fact, I was just the opposite. I had my life and my career, and I was happy with that.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Damn, I love that man!

We went to see Jeff Dunham last night in Savannah, and I haven't laughed that hard in SO long. It was even better than I had anticipated and was worth EVERY PENNY. If he ever does a show anywhere near you, trust me...GO SEE HIM.
I just wish I had a better camera. My trusty little Kodak did the best it could, and I'm not a pro photog, so this is as good as it gets.

I was thrilled to see "Guitar Guy" (aka Brian Haner) there, also. What a freakin' NUT! And, oh holy shit!! I did NOT know that his son is Synyster Gates! Yeah, Syn of Avenged Sevenfold. Did YOU know that??

Like I said, fantastic show, laughed my ass off, and Breeze laughed so hard that she had an asthma attack. Not so fun on that aspect, but she's fine now.

Speaking of Brian Haner, check him out at http://carneyman.com/home.html and be sure to watch his "Octuplet Babies" and "Year of Change" videos.

Sunday, March 08, 2009

Sunset and replenishing the soul

This week has not been the greatest week ever. One thing after another brought on a need to go. The fam got up yesterday morning and hit the road...no plans, no deadlines, no to do list. These are some pics I snapped along the way.
Lake Moultrie

Dinner at the Charleston Crab House...fantastic views, great food, and good prices. What more could you want? Their sign out front worked...it caught our eye, and we had to check it out. Great marketing!

Moonrise before sunset.

Sundown in CharlieTown

Sunset on the Stono River

Anytime life gets too bunged up, the salt air and watching a beautiful sunset always replenishes my soul. Yesterday's trip was just what I needed.